Children & Grief

The death of a pet is a natural part of life, and experts agree that children—even very young ones—should not be shielded from this experience. They notice when something important has happened, and they look to the adults they trust for honest, gentle explanations. Speaking simply and truthfully, in a way that fits the child’s age, is often the most supportive approach.

Start by asking what the child already understands. This helps you offer an explanation that meets their needs. You might say, “Milo’s body got very sick and stopped working, so he died,” or “Rosie was very old, and her body couldn’t keep her alive anymore.”

Avoid phrases that could confuse or frighten them, such as “She went to sleep and didn’t wake up.” Children can take those words literally and may develop unnecessary fears.

Allow children to ask questions when they’re ready. Younger children may wonder where their pet is now or if the pet will return. Older children may ask deeper questions about why animals die or what happens afterward.

No matter the age, keep your explanations simple, loving, and honest. A pet’s passing is often a child’s first experience with loss, and your guidance can help shape how they understand grief throughout their lives. Your patience, comfort, and presence will help them feel supported as they begin to process what has happened.